Trust in the LORD with all your heart

and lean not on your own understanding.

Proverbs 3:5

Monday, December 27, 2010

On the Home Stretch

We are on day 9 of our final trip here in Russia and words cannot express how eager we are to get home. While we have enjoyed our alone time with B, we are exhausted and home sick. We miss our family, friends and precious Camo.
The weather here is crazy. Ice on top of snow and snow on top of ice. The airport here in Moscow was completely shut down yesterday causing much chaos for travelers. It took one family coming to adopt over and hour and a half to get inside the airport once they landed. We pray everything is ok Thursday for us to depart.
Bradyn has been such a sweet little guy and a terror all wrapped into one. He is a fabulous eater and sleeper. We put him down around 9pm and he sleeps all night until 8-8:30am the next morning. He is down to only 1 nap a day, usually and hour and a half to 2 hours is the norm. We nap when he naps so that we can keep up with him while he is awake. Getting him to sleep is a challenge. He is a fighter, but we love every minute of our time with him. He is definitely our precious angel sent from above. He can't sit still for more than a couple minutes at a time. Even while we are holding him he is moving constantly. Hopefully, the flight back home won't be too horribly bad. Keep your fingers crossed for us!
Please continue to pray for a safe flight back home and that B doesn't throw to many fits during the ride.
With much love,
Scott and Mel

Friday, December 24, 2010

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year


God Bless,
The Heavener's

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Our Gotcha Day and 1st Night Together


The day has finally arrived and we are ready to pick up our little guy. Nadya, our translator, called us around 9:15 Tuesday morning to tell us to be ready at 9:50. Wow, not much time. We jump out of bed and get everything ready for our pick up. Its pretty much a blur once we start our adventure to the different offices to sign paperwork. We just went with the flow. We finally arrive at the baby house around 11-ish. We take the gifts to the proper people then off to his room to change his clothes and get him ready. His clothes swallowed him whole. We couldn't find him once his coat was on. So funny! The ride back to the hotel went well. He is such a great baby. Once we are back we played for a while, talked to the family, then took a short nap. We have quickly found out that he is an eater. He loves sweet potatoes and yogurt. It was bath time around 8 and this little guy is an olympic swimmer in the tub. Back and fourth over and over again. It was hilarious. After his bath he had a little bit of cereal then off to bed. Daddy got him right to sleep. He slept for about an hour then woke up screaming. I think he was scared. It took a little while to get him back out, but after he finally gave up he slept until 8am this morning. Thank goodness for the pacifier. We were super excited to get a some needed rest. He had cereal and pear baby food for breakfast and loved it. We are just hanging out in the hotel now playing with our sweet little guy.
We will leave tomorrow around 2 to pick up his passport then head to Moscow for the remainder of our trip. We are glad to be together, but can't wait to be home. See you all very soon.
With love,
Scott and Mel

Monday, December 20, 2010

One night left

We are on our last night without B. Tomorrow is our gotcha day! We cannot wait to enter the baby home and leave with our little man in hand. No more visits then leaving him behind. While our stay here in Russia has been an experience that we will never forget, we are ready to be back in the US with our family. Please continue to pray for our last plane ride home. We have been blessed beyond words.
God Bless, Scott and Mel

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

A successful day in Kaluga court

Today was our court date and needless to say I was a nervous wreck. It was not bad after all. The judge was very nice and we were only there for 90 minutes. Most of the questions were geared toward the social worker, director of the baby home and the Dr. Scott and I spent about 10 mins. a piece answering questions. The judge left for about 10 minutes then returned with her verdict. We were approved! This was such a relief. We can't say enough about our experience in Kaluga. Everyone has bent over backwards to accommodate us. The baby home was exceptional as well. Almost like a daycare. We are extremely excited to be returning home to wait out our 10 days to return and pick up our little peanut. We are blessed beyond words. God is good all the time. This is our first official posted pictures of B...please enjoy!
Love Scott and Mel


Monday, December 6, 2010

2nd trip visits to see B

Our 1st visit this morning went pretty well. B was a little fussy, but we were still able to play together. The 2nd visit not so much. I don't think he felt well and he was very fussy. He kept tugging at his ears and sucking on my arm so I am going to assume he is teething. We had to hold him the entire visit. No time for playtime. Hopefully, he will feel better tomorrow evening for our last visit this trip. He hasn't changed too much. He still only has 2 teeth and is not yet walking. We think his eyes are green, but sometimes they still look blue. He has a little more hair and a one small curl in the back. He is so cute I can't stand it. I hate that we are not there to hold him when he doesn't feel well, but just a couple more weeks and he will be home safe and sound with us. Court tomorrow at 2:30...keep us in your prayers.
Love Scott and Mel

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Back in Russia

We made it to Kaluga around 5pm Sunday 12/5 (that's 8am central US time). It's definitely different weather that it was in late September, 18 degrees to be exact. There is snow on the ground, but it's not supposed to snow anymore this week. This is good news because we do not want to get stuck here. We are not in the hotel we wanted, but it's ok we will live. Once we got checked in and put our stuff in the room, we walked about a mile to McDonald's for dinner.
We have our first visit at 1pm tomorrow then again at 6pm. We can't wait to see how much B has changed in 9 weeks. I'm sure he has a little more hair and probably a couple more teeth. I'm ready to squeeze those sweet little cheeks! We haven't been told what time we will be in court on Tuesday, but I'm sure they will tell us tomorrow. We are ready to get this part over and make this adoption official! Please thank God for letting us get here safe and sound and continue to pray for us while we are here.
Love Scott and Mel

Monday, November 29, 2010

Putting the final touches on B's bedroom

Pictures are hung

Hand made curtains by me with love....I am very proud! You can't see, but there are little red stars and baseballs sewn at the top.

The blue wall, thanks to my daddy.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Court Date

We finally received our court date, Tuesday 12/7/10. We are super excited and can't wait to get back and see our little man. Please continue to pray for a safe travel and smooth court hearing. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to the Heavener's!
Scott and Mel

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Working to get through week #5

It's 4am Tuesday morning and I've been up since 3. I've been sleeping pretty well the past few weeks, considering everything running through my head, but for some reason I couldn't get my mind to rest tonight. I keep praying we get a call soon with a date. I constantly count the "what if" days to see when we would be back. What if we go this day then we will be back this day, those type of things. It really makes no difference because God already knows the date he is just waiting to tell us. Everything is out of our hands now. It's totally up to the judge and when she wants us to come.
On a lighter note, I have already become a shopaholic! Everyone who knows me can attest that I hate to shop. I know this sounds crazy since I am female, but it's true. If I can order it online with a coupon code and free shipping, then life is fabulous. My how times have changed since we saw this precious child. I still love my online shopping, but I also love to browse the stores for him as well. There are such cute things for little boys, I can't hardly stand it. I have started getting his bedroom and bathroom ready. Putting the final touches on them. Lord knows he's had a room to call his own for 2 years now. We just purchased his winter coat and I must say it's the cutest little thing ever. I can't wait to put it on him and bring him home.
While I shop Scott has figured out the imovie on our mac and has been making movies. They are so funny. He puts music and subtitles to B's videos and they are so sweet. They will make you laugh and cry. This is how he is passing the time I suppose. It makes him happy to make the movies and it makes me happy to see him happy. We watch them over and over together and although we miss B, at least we can see his sweet little face and hear his sweet little laugh. If only we could pull him through the computer.
Hopefully, we only have 5 more weeks at the most to wait for trip #2. Once that trip is behind us we only have the mandatory 10 day wait to go back and bring our little man home, FINALLY. No more "what if's" and that's music to my ears.
I will leave by saying how fortunate and blessed we are to have had so much love and support though out this process. Our family and friends mean the world to us and we have felt the love since day 1. It's been a long road to get to this point, but I wouldn't change it for the world. The struggles we have endured have made us the couple we are today. I believe with all my heart we were being tested for a reason. Every curve ball thrown our way was hit right out of the park. We are much stronger and closer than ever. Our faith was never shaken. We have always known who is in the driver seat taking us through this journey. We are just passengers along for the ride, but soon it will be time to start a new journey. One that will take us beyond what we have ever imagined. We are parents, can you believe it?
With love,
Scott and Mel

Saturday, October 23, 2010

3 weeks down

Well 3 weeks have passed waiting on our court date. It feels more like 3 months. Our paperwork should be in front of the judge on Monday. We then wait for the release from the data bank and our FBI background check to be completed. Hopefully, that will be done by the end of Nov. so that a date can be set for the beginning of Dec. I pray, I pray!
We registered for baby items at Target last night which was exciting. We have a ton of stuff already, but there is always more we could use. Our 1st shower is set for Nov. 15. I think we will have 2 showers before he is here and a big shower once he is finally home. I'm sure everyone will want to see him asap. I just look at his pictures and videos and smile. He is so stinkin cute! I am so glad Scott is a picture taker. I joke about it, but I love the fact that he took 280 pictures during our 1st visit. I need 10 albums for all the pictures, but that's ok I love looking at them. The videos are also priceless. A picture is nice, but actual videos of this little guy are fabulous. We are so blessed to have this child and we cannot wait to give him all the love and affection he deserves.
Scott and I could always use tons of prayers for our situation, but there are so many other families adopting who need them even more. Families that are stuck in limbo trying to get a court date, but because the judge in their region will not grant any American adoptions until the bi-lateral agreement is signed they just have to wait. I can't imagine seeing our son then someone saying, you can't come back until a piece of paper is in place which could take months and months. They are supposed to have it signed by January, but who knows at this point. My heart breaks for the couples who have been waiting month after month with no end in site. At least we have a small flicker of light at the end of our tunnel. Please pray for them and their reunion with their child.
With Love,
Scott and Mel

Monday, October 18, 2010

2 weeks down

It's been 2 weeks since we returned home from meeting our sweet baby boy for the 1st time. He is now 10 months old as of yesterday and we miss him more than anyone could ever know. We have been trying to stay busy and positive, but it's so hard. We think about him everyday. We just want him home and in our arms. We have pictures framed and sitting around the house so that we can see him all the time. Hopefully, we only have 6 more weeks to wait, but it could be 8 or more. It's really out of our control. Our paperwork is complete and in Russia being translated and prepared for court. We pray the FBI fingerprints and background check comes back asap. Please pray that Bradyn is as happy as he can be away from his mama and daddy. Pray that he stays healthy because we are not there to hold and comfort him if he gets sick. He needs his parents and we need him. This has been the hardest part by far. We love him so much. Pray we stay positive and that the next several weeks fly by as quickly as possible.
With Love,
Scott and Mel

Friday, October 1, 2010

Our Last Day in Moscow


Today we completed our medical exams. This was the final step in our process during this 1st stay in Russia. It was not too bad.
Tatiana, our translator, met us this morning at 11:20 to hold our hands throughout the entire thing. There were 2 other couples there completing their medicals as well. It was so cool because one couple was from Ireland and the other was from Italy. There were 8 different doctors, a psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, cardiologist, dermatologist, oncologist and a general medical doctor. Each doctor asked 1-5 questions. The dermatologist looked at our skin and the general doctor took our vitals. Pretty painless stuff. We passed with flying colors. Once the process was complete we received an official copy stamped by all 8 doctors and that will go to the courts.
After we left the clinic, Tatiana took us to see the Cathedral of Christ the Saviour, rebuilt in 2000. The original was built in 1860 and was blown up by Stalin's orders in 1931. It was built exactly how is was before and took 5 years to rebuild. It was the most beautiful structure we had ever seen. We have pictures of the outside only because cameras are not allowed inside. It is still a functional church and the city gathers on Religious holidays. People still come in each day and light candles and pray to the Saints. There is marble and gold everywhere. The art work is indescribable. Beautiful is an understatement.
We left the cathedral and Tatiana had our driver take us back to the apt. where we were left on our own. We decided to walk around and see the sights one last time. It's already very chilly here so I can't imagine how cold November will be. The guide that was ay the clinic with one of the other couples said it gets down to -40 here in the winter. Wow! We had a great time here, but we are ready to come home and begin the countdown until we get to return and bring our boy home.
Love Scott and Mel

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Wednesday and Thursday


Yesterday (Wednesday) was a bit hard for us. We went to our afternoon visit and took Bradyn to get his picture taken for his passport. He was such a good boy on the ride there. We were not allowed to hold him outside the baby house so the nurse held him while we rode. It was kind of crappy that I had to sit beside him, but I understood. We got back and played for a little while until we had to leave. Nadia took us to a fabulous steak restaurant called the Black Bull. Scott was a very happy guy since he finally got a steak. We walked back to our hotel and rested before going back. This was going to be our last visit so we were excited to get back and see him. When it was time we made our way back to the baby house for our evening visit. We played with Bradyn for about an hour and a half until he started getting tired. It was time to take him back to the caregiver. We said our good-bye's and of course I cried. We all knew I would. I mean come on who am I trying to kid here? I have prepared myself for this, but it's still tough handing over your child knowing you will not see him again for 6-8 wks. Scott did well as I knew he would, but inside I know he was hurting. We went back to our room after first making our regular nightly walk to the convenient store to buy cokes. I started loading the pictures and videos so that we could get a few downloaded for folks to see. Now here is where Scott broke down. Seeing Bradyn playing pulled at his heart a little. We love this little guy more than we can explain and we don't want to ever let him go. This will probably be the hardest thing we will ever have to do our entire life, but we will make it through together.
Today (Thursday) we made our trip back to Moscow. We arrived at the office to meet our new translator for the duration of our trip. We signed a couple papers and got all the information we needed to have ready for our next trip. Our driver took us to our apartment in Central Moscow to get settled in. We dropped off our things and headed out with our new translator to view the city some. This place in unbelievable! It's so big and the buildings are so gorgeous. We went to the famous Red Square and viewed all the buildings there. They took our breath away. Our translator stayed with us a while, made sure we knew how to get back to our apartment and then we were on our own. Thankfully, there are a lot of people here that speak English so we were good. We walked around a little while longer, stopped by McDonald's for some dinner, went to Cinnabon for dessert and headed back to the apartment.
We will go for our medical exams tomorrow, tour this place a little more, then get ready to head back home. This has been a great trip because we met our son, but we are ready to be back in the good ole USA! See you all soon.
Love Scott and Mel

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

The Official "Yes" Day


Today is the official day that we say yes we would like to adopt Bradyn and accept him as our referral child. We will go before a notary and sign the paperwork so that it will be official here in Russia. We also get his pictures taken for his passport/visa to be prepared for the 2nd trip when we bring him home with us. This will be our last day to visit him. I am not ready to leave him, but I feel at peace knowing he is eating well and being cared for the best way they know how here. He has toys and other children to play with. He will not have the attention he has had over the past 3 days, but it won't be too long until we can have him forever. I have held up surprisingly well leaving him each day only because I know I'm coming back. I pray God holds my hand this evening and tells me it will be ok to let him go temporarily. I feel sure Scott will be ok on the outside, but he will hurt on the inside as well. It's unexplainable the emotions we are feeling. Today around 10:15am, TN time, stop and say a short prayer for us. This will be 7:15pm, Russia time, and we will be leaving the orphanage from our last visit. In a way we are ready to be done with this week only because our wait begins for our next trip. The sooner the wait begins the sooner it ends. However, we are not ready to leave our son here. He has quickly began to bond with us a little and know our faces. I know we will miss him more than he will miss us, so that helps some. This experience is one we will never forget.
Love Scott and Mel

Day 2 at the Baby House

Today was a great day seeing Bradyn. He was so attentive and his personality really shined. Scott had him walking again with his help and we were throwing him in the air just to see him smile. Scott got him to actually laugh and then I tickled him and he laughed so hard. It was so cute. He responds well to our sound and his motor skills seem to be improving as well. It's amazing what a little interaction does for a child. It's getting harder and harder to leave him. We also got to take a few pictures and a video of another child who is waiting for his mommy and daddy to come back for him in a few weeks. They will be thrilled when we send that over to them. Tomorrow we will go to the notary to officially sign our acceptance for him and have his passport/visa picture taken. It will be a day to remember. We will post some more videos very soon...
Love Scott and Mel

Monday, September 27, 2010

Day One at the Baby House

Today, 9/27/2010, is the day that has changed our lives forever! We arrived at the baby house around 11 to speak to the doctor before going to meet our baby. The place was surprisingly nice and clean. There were a few older children, probably 2-3 years old going for a stroll with some of the care givers when we arrived. They had a small play area outside and lots of oversized stuffed animals inside everywhere. We went into the doctor's office to speak with her about all the medical issues we may be facing. She was very nice and let us ask anything we wanted. She provided all the medical information she had on the mother and the baby. Our translator Nadia did a fabulous job of letting us know what was being said. After we were finished, we went into what is called the music room to wait for them to bring him to us. He had just awoke from his nap and he had to be fed and changed so we waited about 20 mins. for that to be finished.The caregiver brought him through the door and the joy we felt is indescribable. He was beautiful! She handed him right to me. He just stared at me at first, I'm sure wondering, who are you? They were already calling me his mama. We played in the floor with him for about an hour and 45 minutes. We were amazed at how clean and healthy he looked. He was more advanced than we thought he would be. It was amazing to see how well he reacted to Scott considering he spends "0" time with men at the baby house because all the caregivers are women. Margaret, the lady that handles all the official documents while we are here, said he looked like Scott.
We did surprisingly well when we had to leave him. We were sad, but we would be back in a few hours. Our second visit was at 6pm, where we stayed about the same amount of time. This is going to sound crazy, but he already seemed happy to see us. He laughed a lot more this time and seemed to play a little more. This was a fabulous day and we can't wait to go back tomorrow. Until then, continue to keep us in your prayers.
Love Scott and Mel

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Orphanage Day

Our time has been moved from 1pm to 11am today to visit the baby house. We are so nervous, but super excited. In a few minutes we will see our son for the 1st time. I now know what a mom feels when she is about to give birth and see her baby for the 1st time. It's so weird. To say that we have butterflies is an understatement. Once we see his little face I think the nervousness will go away and the joy and excitement will set in. We are blessed to have this day!
Scott and Mel

Our 1st Day

We made it to Russia safe and sound. Our flight was actually very nice. We cannot say enough good things about Singapore Airlines and their staff. The flight was only 10.5 hours total. We left at 6pm Sat. night, US time, and arrived in Moscow at 1:30pm, Sunday afternoon, Russian time. We had a little hiccup at first trying to figure out where to go and what exactly to do. We stood in the passport verification line (which was super long) just to find out we failed to fill out our immigration forms. No biggie though we just rolled with the punches, filled out the forms and waited in line again. After going through customs we met our driver holding a sign with our name on it. That was super exciting.
Our driver did not speak English and of course we don't speak Russian so the 3 hour ride to our region was pretty quiet. They drive like maniacs here. Not sure why they have lines on the roads because they don't use them at all. They whip in and out of traffic and cut other cars off like crazy people.
We finally make it to our region to meet Nadia our guide and translator. Thank goodness, we can now communicate with someone other than each other. She is very nice and helpful. She took us to our room and then took a walk around the area showing us where we could purchase items we needed, and places we could eat. We went to a cafe called The Wall and treated her to ice cream. We asked a ton of questions and she was very helpful in answering them. Nadia gave us some history on the area as well. She will be going to the orphanage with us each day. We make our 1st trip to see Bradyn tomorrow at 1 then again that evening. We will get to see him at the same time each day until Thursday when we will have to go back to Moscow. Nadia said the head dr. at the orphanage is very helpful with the children's medical information. She will answer any questions we may have and we can ask anything.
We will do our best to update videos after the 1st visit tomorrow. We don't know how much down time we will have because it's the 1st day and we have to speak to the dr. there then get the information back to our dr. at Vandy.
Scott and Mel

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

READY SET GO

Just bought a new video camera, case, extra battery and flash card, 1 extra battery for the regular camera, an external hard drive for the mac, and ear phones to listen to movies on the plane. Gosh it's costing a fortune just to take pictures and make videos of the little guy. ;)
I think we are as prepared as we are going to be for an 11 hour flight and stay in a foreign country. Please continue to pray for safe travels and a safe stay in Russia. Pray that there are tons of pictures we can point to since we will have no idea what anyone is saying and vice versa. Hopefully, we can lean on our translator for most of what we will need. Pray that our little peanut responds to us as well as he can and that there are no major medical issues that we were not aware of. Pray for patience if things don't go as smoothly as we would like. We both hate crowds so the busyness of Russia and the language barrier should be very exciting. Pray that we don't get too car sick on the 3 hour ride to our Region. Pray that we remember not to drink the water!! Just Pray, Pray, Pray and when you are tired Pray some more!
We have been waiting for this moment since January and now that's it's here we are both scared to death. Even though we know God has control of this whole situation, it's hard not to worry.
Scott and Mel

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Hang tight my sweet boy!

“I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of Him.”
1 Samuel 1:27

Sunday, September 5, 2010

The Referral is Here!!!

Finally, we received our referral from Russia. Our agency called Tuesday, August 31 with the good news. "We have a boy for you to consider". Those were the magic words. I was in complete shock to say the least. I have played out this scenario in my head at least 100 times, but now that it was real I didn't know what to do or say. Chills came over my entire body and tears filled my eyes. She emailed the pictures and medical information within minutes. I quickly called Scott. OMG no answer, so I called his other cell and he answered, finally. I asked was he close by because we received our referral. He wanted me to go ahead and open the email then forward it to him. The 1st picture was amazing. He was absolutely beautiful! It's amazing how one little picture melted my heart in seconds. I wanted to pull him through the computer. This was the day we had been waiting on since January. We decided it was best to keep this a secret until we spoke with a doctor. There was no need in getting everyone's hopes up just to let them down if we had to say no to this referral. I had a week to give the agency an answer on what we were going to do. I called the international adoption clinic at Vanderbilt immediately to get an appointment. I sent all the information to the doctor Wednesday and she set up a phone consult at 9am Thursday morning. That morning, I had worked myself into a frenzy waiting on her call. I was literally slumped over my desk waiting to puke at any second. I wanted this call to be over one way or another. Finally, the phone rings. The doctor was very informative giving me more information than my brain could handle in one conversation. She explained everything in great detail. None of his medical information worried her in the slightest. He was a little higher risk because of his head circumference, but that's it. This was a stressful and emotional day. My anxiety had ended but the fear had set in. Do we accept him or not? Is the fear of the unknown too great of a risk? The clock could not get to 3:30 fast enough so that I could get home and talk things over with Scott. After explaining to him everything the doctor had explained to me his words were, "what's the problem?" "We knew he was going to be smaller than normal, so let's do this". Wow, I had been stressing all day and he's ready to go. We had to step out on faith just like all the times before and meet this little guy. God had led us this far, we cannot lose faith in Him now. We called the family and emailed the pictures to let them know. Everyone was filled with emotions and so excited. This was a day to remember for everyone. Finally, a face to put with the name we had given him since day one of this journey. We will be traveling for the 1st trip veer soon. Hopefully, if everything goes according to plan we will receive our court date sometime mid to late November to return and bring him home. What a Christmas this year will be. Please continue to pray for peace in our hearts and guidance as we travel to meet our son for the 1st time. Pray that we have a safe trip and that everything works out in our favor. God is good all the time!

Saturday, August 21, 2010

What an awesome day!

The benefit today was a great success. We raised a total of 9,055 toward bringing Bradyn home. We cannot begin to thank our family and friends who helped make this day possible. We are blessed beyond what we will ever deserve. So many gave from their hearts without hesitation. We are truly loved. Bradyn is one of the luckiest little boys and he doesn't even know it. We can't wait until we can shout to the Heaven's "we have his referral and we are on our way". What a day that will be. Hang tight baby boy mama and daddy will be there very soon to bring you home.
With much love
Scott and Mel

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Benefit Saturday August 21st

Its benefit time in Greenbrier, TN. Come join us for food, fun and entertainment. Tons of fun for the kids and great auction items for the adults. Bid on a date with Ty Brown from last season's Bachelorette. Only $10 per person or $25 per family for great entertainment, provided by Mitch Rossell, yummy food and fabulous activities. Dunk Scott in the dunk booth if you dare!! We would love to see everyone there supporting our cause. We love you all!

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

US/Russia Delegation Update

Tuesday, July 20, 2010
U.S. Delegation's Discussions Continue on Inter-Country Adoption
Published: July 20, 2010

An expert-level U.S. delegation will leave for Moscow today to begin a fourth round of discussions on inter-country adoption. During the bilateral talks, which are scheduled for July 21-23, the delegation will pursue an agreement that provides greater safeguards for children and families in the adoption process between the two countries.
The United States looks forward to building on the progress achieved during the last round of discussions, held in June in Washington. Working with their Russian counterparts, the delegation will review the latest draft of the adoption agreement, making every effort to ensure that it addresses the legal and policy concerns of both countries.
The U.S. team is headed by Mary Ellen Hickey, Managing Director of the Office of Overseas Citizens Services, and includes representatives from U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services and the State Department's Legal Adviser's Office and Bureaus of Consular and European Affairs.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Benefit Concert and Celebration

We have officially set a date for the benefit, August 21, 2010, at Greenbrier High School. The time will probably be 12-4. Hopefully, we will have flyers and definite information in a couple weeks. Please youtube Mitch Rossell, he will be performing. We will have burgers and hot dogs with all the fixings, and activities for the kiddos. There will be a raffle with fantastic prizes. Once everything is set in stone I will post. We look forward to seeing everyone and raising money to help with this process. The time is fast approaching and we need to be ready!! See you there.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Russia/US delegation update

The next round of Russian-U.S. consultations on a bilateral child adoption agreement will be held on June 14-16 in Washington, a U.S. State Department spokesperson on consular issues told RIA Novosti on Wednesday.
Two rounds of Russian-U.S. talks on the inter-governmental child adoption agreement were held on April 29 and May 12-14 in Moscow.
"In May we received our "homework" and now we want to see how it was done in order to meet in mid-June and continue discussions on the draft treaty," Alina Levitskaya, who heads Russia's education ministry's social protection department, said earlier.
"According to the Foreign Ministry's information we will receive the draft agreement from our U.S. colleagues tomorrow [on Thursday]," she added.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

U.S.-Russia adoption agreement to be finalized

Official: U.S.-Russia adoption agreement to be finalized

A draft agreement on international adoptions between the United States and Russia will be finalized by Friday, Moscow's children's rights commissioner said Wednesday.

After it is finalized, the agreement will be forwarded to the Russian Health and Education ministries and the Cabinet of Ministers, said the commissioner, Pavel Astakhov. If approved by the Cabinet, a signing date will be scheduled, he said. The final copy would be signed by Russia's Education Ministry and the U.S. State Department or Department of Justice, he added.

Under the proposed agreement, the number of U.S. adoption agencies dealing with Russian children will be diminished, he said.

"We will reduce the number of U.S. adoption agencies accredited in Russia," Astakhov said. Only those agencies that are accredited in the United States and compliant with the requirements of the Hague convention on international adoptions will be allowed to continue working in Russia, he said.

In addition, he said, "independent adoptions" will be abolished altogether. The draft agreement envisions setting up a joint Russian-American body with the authority to check out any U.S. family adopting a Russian child, Astakhov said.

High-level meetings between the two nations on adoptions followed an uproar after a Tennessee woman sent the young Russian boy she had recently adopted back to Russia unaccompanied. Artyem Saveliev, who was then 7, carried a letter to the Russian Ministry of Education from his adoptive mother saying he was "mentally unstable" and was violent with "severe psychopathic issues/behaviors."

The draft agreement stipulates that the two countries should coordinate and sign it within the next two months, Astakhov said. The two countries do not disagree over the agreement, but a number of details are still being hammered out, he said.

A senior State Department official said last week that Russian authorities continue to approve U.S. adoptions despite some public sentiment there to call for a complete halt. The official insisted on anonymity because of the sensitivity of the issue. But he said one possible provision of a new U.S.-Russia agreement would allow earlier and more frequent sharing of information both before and after adoptions. He said that some American couples don't see details of a child's medical and psychological condition until a court appearance for final adoption approval.

– CNN's Charley Keyes contributed to this report.

Friday, May 7, 2010

Official CIS Approval


Thursday, April 29, 2010

Update

"The head of the American delegation Michael Kirby, the Deputy Assistant Secretary of State for consular affairs, said the meeting had been "fruitful". "We agree we want to do the best for the children…," he said. But the main document is still not ready. Russia’s children’s ombudsman Pavel Astakhov said that the document will be finished and handed to the US side shortly. Russia plans to include 8 new amendments to the agreement. According to Astakhov, the US delegation will stay in Moscow for another couple of days and continue to form a working group. Both Russians and Americans are ready for this, Astakhov said: "The US party has shown their readiness to continue negotiations and sign the bilateral agreement on adoption. Now it is important to work out this document as soon as possible. The US side understands the delay and Michael Kirby said we are on one side. "
Earlier Astakhov said the Russian side presented all the document’s provisions to the US . They are based on the Hague Adoption Convention which was not ratified by Russia.The main talks on adoption are due on May 12. All the needed documents will be ready by that time.
Report from Dmitry Borisov

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Our status

As of Monday 4/19/10 all paperwork has been completed and sent to the adoption agency. Carol, at the agency, was scheduled to make a trip to Moscow Wednesday 4/21/10 to hand deliver our documents, but with all the flight cancellations because of volcanic ash I am not sure if she went or not. I am trying not to bother her with a lot of questions because I know she has many other families worrying about bringing their babies home. We are now waiting on our log in date from Russia and our official CIS approval saying that we can adopt. I am not sure how long this will take. Hopefully, just a month or two. Once we get a log in date and approval we will then begin the long awaited referral of our son. This will be the most exciting, but stressful part of the process. We are keeping our faith strong and we know that this adoption is God's plan for us. We feel sure the US and Russia will agree on something to clear up the mess created by one stupid decision. Please continue to pray for peace in our hearts as we continue our journey. Pray that I don't pull my hair out during the wait! :) God Bless, Mel

Monday, April 19, 2010

Latest news on the adoption freeze

A meeting between U.S. and Russian officials over the newly charged issue of American adoptions of Russian children, scheduled for Monday, will likely be delayed, officials in both countries signaled Saturday.

The U.S. delegation is delayed in getting to Moscow because of flight disruptions due to an ash cloud from an Icelandic volcano. The ash has triggered the cancellation of thousands of international flights in recent days.

"The party is holding in Toronto (Canada) due to flight disruptions," State Department spokesman Darby Holladay told CNN on Saturday. "Like many, they await resumption of air travel."

Russian Ambassador Sergey Kislyak told CNN earlier Saturday that "technical problems seem to be standing in the way from (U.S. officials) coming to Moscow tomorrow or the day after tomorrow."

The State Department had announced the meeting on Friday.

Moscow has sent mixed signals on adoptions recently, following the uproar over a Tennessee woman sending home a 7-year-old Russian boy she had adopted.

Kislyak said that U.S. and Russian officials are continuing talks on the matter and sounded upbeat about progress. "We are getting signals from our American colleagues that they understand the issue needs to be dealt with," he said.

A Russian Foreign Ministry spokesman announced Thursday that Moscow had put an end to the adoption of children by American families until rules covering them can be hashed out with U.S. officials.

"Further adoptions of Russian children by the American citizens, which at present has been suspended, will only be possible in case such an agreement is reached," said the spokesman, Andrei Nesterenko.

But Kislyak appeared to soften that line on Saturday. Asked whether adoptions by Americans are currently frozen, he said that "adoption is a process by each and every kid and it takes time. So we'll see how things will develop."

"We're insisting on freezing this unless we have a legal framework negotiated with the United States that provides protection for the people," Kislyak said.

On Friday, State Department spokesman P.J. Crowley seemed unsure about the state of adoptions from Russia.

"I don't think the system has stopped," Crowley said. "It is very possible the system is slowing down as we work through these issues."

Crowley had said that a U.S. delegation from State and the Department of Homeland Security would travel to Moscow this weekend to meet Russian officials on Monday.

Officials at private U.S. adoption agencies say families trying to adopt Russian children are deeply concerned by the current uncertainty. Janice Goldwater, who runs a Silver Spring, Maryland, agency called Adoptions Together, said she is working with two dozen families trying to finalize Russian adoptions.

"I know families that were about to get on an airplane, have court dates scheduled, and they don't know if they should be crying, or dancing with relief," Goldwater told CNN in a telephone interview. "What should I do, should I be finishing the nursery, getting the toddler toys or should I be keeping myself safe and protected by doing nothing?

"So it is a very difficult time for families," Goldwater said.

On Friday, the United States said some U.S. adoptions were still being acted on in Russia.

"There are cases that are still moving forward. There are cases that have been postponed. Does this represent a blanket suspension - the answer is 'no,'" Crowley said at his Friday afternoon briefing.

"Does this mean there could be some instances where cases are held up for a period of time as we try to clarify what's happening and see if we can strengthen the processes that are in place - yes, there well may be delays," Crowley said.

"The Russians have mentioned to us they want to reach a bilateral agreement, Crowley said. "We share the same objective to find improved ways to process these adoptions while making sure these adoptions move forward so we will see what this meeting produces next week."

– CNN's Jeff Simon and Charley Keyes contributed to this report.

Friday, March 12, 2010

Update

Took all our dossier forms to Catholic Charities today so that they can be certified and sent to the adoption agency. Our home study has been officially approved, and as of next week, will be on its way to immigration and to the adoption agency. Hopefully, we will have our official approval and log in date within a month or so. Once we get our log in date from Russia the wait for our baby boy's referral begins. This is so exciting. I wondered today what I will do and how I will react when that day arrives. I'm sure I will cry, that's kind of a given. Will I scream at the top of my lungs? Will I be in such shock that I stare at his picture for hours? Who knows! One thing is for sure it will be the most emotional day of our lives.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Fingerprinting

Filling out the forms for our immigration fingerprints.

Scott just realized there was a no cameras allowed sign and cut my head off...oops!

Monday, February 8, 2010

Home Study Complete!

Our home study is complete. Here are a few pictures with Hallie from Catholic Charities. She will be writing up our home study to send to the adoption agency. Our 1st process is done. Now we move on to the dossier portion for Catholic Social Services which is our adoption agency. This is the heavy paperwork part that goes to Russia.



Sunday, February 7, 2010

Bradyn's Nursery


Bradyn's bookshelf already complete with tons of books. Also his rocking chair from Blake and Misty.


In the corner is my great Grandfather's old rocking chair that Scott's dad (PAPA) restored. Just a little piece of history.


This is Bradyn's lifetime crib. We decided to use it for company until he gets here.


Old baseball pictures of Scott that we framed for the room. The drawing was done by Scott's uncle Dan from the picture below it. We will be hanging all 3 in his room.


Closet full of clothes already!


Bradyn's baseball ceiling fan.

Friday, January 29, 2010

Scott's pens for sale

Scott started a new hobby before Christmas last year, making pens. He is very good and they are very nice. They are made from various woods, acrylics, deer racks and buffalo horns. All proceeds go to Bradyn's adoption fund. The deer and buffalo ones are $35 and the wood and acrylics are $25. They are re-fillable with cross inserts. Pick your favorite color and buy one today. Email us at heavener24@comcast.net with your selection and contact information.





Wednesday, January 20, 2010

A poem for Bradyn

This is a poem I wrote for my unborn son when we started the domestic process.

A poem for Bradyn

It’s hard to imagine how much love I have for a child whose face I’ve never seen.
I’ve never heard his cry or kissed his cheek.
I do not know the color of his eyes or the color of his hair.

It’s hard to imagine the ache in my heart to be apart from him for one day, when I haven’t spent one second with him in my life.
It’s hard to imagine the joy a mother feels when she first counts 10 fingers and 10 toes.
It’s hard to imagine one mother’s sacrifice to give another mother hope.

I do imagine kissing his cheek and soothing his cry.
I do imagine seeing his dad hold him for the very first time.
As each day passes, I do imagine God’s plan to bring these moments into my life.

Thursday, January 14, 2010




As of today we have had our 1st of 3 home study meetings, completed all paperwork up to date, and mailed our immigration papers. We are well on our way to completing the initial process. Hopefully it will only take 3 months at the most to get it all taken care of. Then comes the wait. We are ready and excited.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Ready to start this new journey!

As of today we have picked a new agency for our adoption process. We have requested the application which should come tomorrow or Saturday. Once that is turned in we will be ready to start the process. We have our 1st homestudy meeting Monday and I have already scheduled our doctor's appointments for our medical exams. According to the agency and the families I have spoke with this process should only take a year, maybe even less. This is very exciting. We have been waiting so long for a child and to know he may be here this year is overwhelming. I am trying not to stress, but if you know me then you know that's just not possible. I am a worrier. Even though I know in my heart this is God's plan and He has the control I still carry it all on my shoulders. We are so blessed that throughout the past 5 years we have stood by one another through all the disappointments and tears. We have spent all of our married life trying to have a baby and I am so honored to say it has only made our marriage stronger. We have been tested so many times and somehow, by the grace of God, we manage to pull through. This is just another exciting adventure we get to take together and once the journey is over we will be holding our baby boy, Bradyn.
God Bless, Mel